We look in a mirror everyday, what is staring back at us is the same thing that is staring at the mirror, but yet we see something that other people don't see. We see ourselves as totally different as other people see us.
Our actions are much that same way, when we see how we react or act towards someone, they see it differently, they do not see it how I see it. If I cross my arms, they look at me as I am on the defensive, if I put my hands in my pockets, they don't think I am serious. Our body language tells us a lot about each other, but maybe, just maybe we are not to look at how the other person reacts or acts, maybe we are called to treat each other how we want to be treated. Instead of comparing how the other person acts towards us, we take the other person out of the equation and we act just as we want to be treated. Don't assume the other person is doing that, because not everyone gets it. They thing they do not deserve to be treated nicely, respectfully, but as I have said so many times before, change starts right here, with me. I need to be willing to follow what the Bible says and it says this very thing: Luke 6:31 "Do unto others as you would have done unto you" or Matthew 7:12 "So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets."
So next time you react to someone, think is that the way I want them to treat me.
One other thing, if something annoys you about someone else, like how they respond or something they may do that really gets under your skin, look at yourself to see if you do that very thing. I have found that those things that really bother me about someone else, that I do that very thing. So next time something bothers you that someone does, look in the mirror and say do I do that??? It is a good way to see the areas in ourselves that we need to change, it is like a check up.
Thursday, October 29, 2015
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
Reactionary
Proverbs 15:1 "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
I am a reactionary person, I react when someone talks to me harshly or when someone does things that I don't like. I react, I am learning that I need to stop, take a minute and not react. If I could respond with a soft answer, instead of pointing out someone else's faults, how much further along would I be. When a problem happens, it is so easy to say if so and so handled it differently, I wouldn't react so badly, but when I do that I am pointing at that person and how many fingers are pointing back at me. If you are unsure what I mean, take you finger and point at something. How many fingers are pointing back at you? There should be 3, unless you use both hands...
How easy it is for me to point out other peoples faults, but my own, do I want to look at them? No, not at all, because that would mean I was/am the problem. I don't like admitting that I am the problem, but step back and look at the last fight you may have gotten into, who was the one that started it? Who kept going? Stop blaming someone else, because as I have always stated, I can't change someone else, but I sure can change how I react to someone else. Change starts with acknowledging that I am the problem, that I need to change, that I want to change. Now it is time to do the hard work and do it well. Don't tell me people can't change, it takes work, but it is so worth it. I want to change, I don't want to react, yes I will stumble with this. 3 steps forward, 2 backwards, means I am still moving forward. Remember that if you are reading this and say it is all my spouses issue, you have not learned about the finger pointing trick. When you both work together at a common goal, guess what, you will reach it much quicker, now add God to the mix and WOW amazing things will transform. It takes 3 strands, allow God to wined you together.
We are human and we will struggle with this, but I will not give up, because in order to climb a mountain I have to keep moving forward or I will not make it to the top. Each change requires work, each thing that I want to accomplish requires work, but I will do that work for the ones I love, because I want to be who God calls me to be, but I have to do the work necessary, because that is what causes change. Being willing to surrender who I am, to be what God calls me to be, I must die to live according to God. People don't like change, but can you imagine changing to what God is calling you to?
I am a reactionary person, I react when someone talks to me harshly or when someone does things that I don't like. I react, I am learning that I need to stop, take a minute and not react. If I could respond with a soft answer, instead of pointing out someone else's faults, how much further along would I be. When a problem happens, it is so easy to say if so and so handled it differently, I wouldn't react so badly, but when I do that I am pointing at that person and how many fingers are pointing back at me. If you are unsure what I mean, take you finger and point at something. How many fingers are pointing back at you? There should be 3, unless you use both hands...
How easy it is for me to point out other peoples faults, but my own, do I want to look at them? No, not at all, because that would mean I was/am the problem. I don't like admitting that I am the problem, but step back and look at the last fight you may have gotten into, who was the one that started it? Who kept going? Stop blaming someone else, because as I have always stated, I can't change someone else, but I sure can change how I react to someone else. Change starts with acknowledging that I am the problem, that I need to change, that I want to change. Now it is time to do the hard work and do it well. Don't tell me people can't change, it takes work, but it is so worth it. I want to change, I don't want to react, yes I will stumble with this. 3 steps forward, 2 backwards, means I am still moving forward. Remember that if you are reading this and say it is all my spouses issue, you have not learned about the finger pointing trick. When you both work together at a common goal, guess what, you will reach it much quicker, now add God to the mix and WOW amazing things will transform. It takes 3 strands, allow God to wined you together.
We are human and we will struggle with this, but I will not give up, because in order to climb a mountain I have to keep moving forward or I will not make it to the top. Each change requires work, each thing that I want to accomplish requires work, but I will do that work for the ones I love, because I want to be who God calls me to be, but I have to do the work necessary, because that is what causes change. Being willing to surrender who I am, to be what God calls me to be, I must die to live according to God. People don't like change, but can you imagine changing to what God is calling you to?
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