We are in a Posttraumatic Culture, for some reason everyone is looking to the past to blame the place where they are at now. Instead of seeing that they are where they are at now, because of the past. If that makes sense. See our past shapes us, it makes us who we are today, if we didn't have our past we would not be here in the present, the present is a gift, but without that gift, we would have nothing to open today. That is a lot to think about I know. I know that our past may have traumatic events in it, but our brains have a way to shape what happened into either a mountain or a mole hill, sometimes the mole hills or ant hills become the worst events in our lives, they are seen as things that damaged us, but in fact we would not be who we are without those events.
I was spanked as a child, however I would not say that damaged me in the least, in fact I think that it helped shape me. My mother did it in love and care for my well being. I disrespected her or the law and I paid the price, well my butt did, but I paid the price. These days, the punishment is not worth the wrong that was committed.
We blame what we do not remember, we see the past as the wrong, instead of seeing how we are reacting as the wrong. The wrong is our perception of the past, it is our thought process that is in the wrong. Change our perspective we change the outcome, we change our present. Without changing our perspective we don't change what we see. A story told by one person can be a horror story, however the same story told by someone else can be a love story, depending on the perspective. We have to be willing to look through a difference lens.
Stop blaming others for the perspective that we see, we own it, we see through it, these are our choices. These are what we see, these are what we do. To many people are blaming everyone else, time to own your own world if that makes sense. Stop saying it is because... Stop putting your choices on someone else. Stop putting their choices on yourself. They did it because I did this, is not a valid argument, they did it because they made a choice to do it, it was not my choice that made them do it. We take too much blame for other people.
It is like trying to sue a car manufacturer for a drunk driver who killed a person. The car manufacturer had nothing to do with the drunk driver, they did nothing they only made a car. The same holds true, we can't put the blame on ourselves for what people do, that is their choice. We own our own, stop blaming others.
