Just some thought provoking examples in life. Not always true, but somethings you can tell by examples. I don't know if you have heard any of these, but here we go:
- If you want to know how a man will be to his wife, see how the man treats his mother.
- If a child is all about themselves, selfish, self centered, this is a learned behavior and never dealt with, see where it comes from. More than likely the parent or parents have this trait as well.
- If you are looking for a mate, look to see if that person just dusts around the furniture or under it, if they dust everywhere, that means they aren't trying to hide anything, because they are more willing to search out the dirt in their own life.
- Compassion is a trait that is taught, it is a learned trait, if there is someone that doesn't have it, run away, because it wasn't taught at a young age, that means it will be hard to teach it now, there is a reason they are where they are, don't try to teach them it now, because the only person that will end up being compassionate is you, it will cost more and be more painful to you in the process.
- Love is only love if it is given away, love is not selfish, it can't be held onto, if a person says they love you, they will be willing to show it, willing to demonstrate it in more than words. Words are cheap and meaningless, unless backed by love being given away. Anyone can say I love you, that is free, but the action of being loving is costly and it means that you are willing to give all and be hurt in the process, that is what love is.
- Listen to those that are outside of the situation, because they do see the things that you do not see. It is hard to ask for help from those people, but wisdom comes from a multitude of counselors, don't be like the foolish person who is unwilling to ask for help and thinks they know it all. Be willing to ask, be willing to seek help and be willing to be venerable, because that is how we learn.
- Life takes work, that is the bottom line. Yes we all must work to live, might as well find something you enjoy doing and do it well. We all have tough days, don't let the days get you down, choose to be better then those days, choose to find the happiness, not be finding the negative, but finding the positive of life.
- There will be negative in every situation, it will be the easiest thing to come by, anyone can find the negative, anyone can complain about everything, anyone can be the one to find the worst possible things to say, the most downright cruel things, but what I tell you, don't be anyone, be the one that says the positive, looking on the bright side, look for all the positive things in everything you do and be thankful in it all, know why, because in doing so you will stand out, you will be different then everyone, you will be the one that is the light in the room in the darkest moment everyone will say you are different. You want to be different, don't be like everyone else. Different is good.
- That in itself is the best of it all, different is good, don't worry about what people think, you can't control what others think of you, who cares what they think. You didn't do anything wrong, you can't control them, just like they can't control you. You can't change them and they can't change you, so what does it matter if they don't like your hair or your shoes, who do you have to impress, who do you have to be great to? You have to stand in front of a mirror and look good for you. The only person that really matters in the room is the person that will stand before you every morning and night in the mirror and that is you. So stop trying to please everyone, because you can't and start seeing yourself as beautiful and wonderful, start being thankful for the very air you breath, start being thankful for who you are and that you can read, start being thankful that you have eyes and stop wishing that people would see you, because know what, that brings a whole new world of trouble...
- That brings me to my next point. We will all stand before God one day and we will have no one to blame for our mistakes, we will not be able to blame it on our parents or the devil, because we will be standing before God and it will be only you and Him. Not anyone else, you can't say that they made me do it, or they made me mad or that I did it because X, Y and Z, because God wants you to take responsibility for your own actions, because we must own our actions, we must own our mistakes, our anger, our frustration, our sins, they are ours, no one else's, don't blame it on someone else, take it and own it and stop passing blame. Just like driving down the road, we get cut off, it is our choice to get angry, we have 2 choices, get angry or bless the person, what do you choose?
- The world lies, don't listen to the world, they will tell you that you can't do it, or you are not fit enough or you can't change and negative lies about yourself. But I am here to tell you, if you listen to the negative about yourself and believe it, then that is all you will be, but if you stop believing the lies and start ignoring the lies and start declaring them as lies and start saying that I am not ugly, that I am worth it and that I am smarter and that I am... and I am... that the more you stop with the negative and the more you start with the positive things will change in you, in your life. Try it, it takes more then a day, try it for a week, see what happens, after a week a month then a year, it will grow on you and so on. (I truly believe that our skin, our health our body is based on so much more then just our food intake, but that is for another conversation).
- If you really want to change you can, but again it takes work. Nothing easy is free, nothing that will last is easy either. So if a pill is easy to take and will make you lose 100 pounds, there is something wrong with it, because trust me when I tell you, that it doesn't happen that way. Every good thing that will last takes work, marriage work, relationships work, kids work, our life with Christ work, job work, etc... you get my point. If you want something to last put the work into it, it will pay off. In a relationship, it takes 2 to tango, one sided the relationship will crumble, it takes two.
- Taking the easy way out, it doesn't mean it is the best way out either. Just because you can do it, does it mean you should do it. Sometimes we are put in a situation because we need to be in it, because we need to learn from it, we shouldn't look to get out of it. Walk through it, learn from it and deal with it.
