What are our limits and why?

Love

We need to understand with love comes pain. It is hard to understand that saying unless we truly love someone. In order to love, we must first know how to love ourselves. In order to trust, we must first learn to trust ourselves, can you imagine what I may say next? In order to forgive, we must first learn to forgive ourselves. We are unable to understand these words until we put them into meaning in ourselves. To love ourselves does not mean that we are self centered, it means that we can look in the mirror, it means that our actions line up with the words we speak. It also means that for our past choices and mistakes that we have let them go, we have forgiven ourselves and by doing so we learn to forgive others.

We are in a blame society. Isn't it time we start taking responsibility for our own mistakes? I believe it is and the sooner we can do that, the sooner we understand the things above. Stop looking to others to blame and start excepting the responsibility we need to in ourselves.

I believe it is time we stand, stand up and be counted. Stop being a wimp, looking for the easy way out and stand up, because today is the day to start making differences.

I was watching a video yesterday about a man that was born with no arms and no legs. He is goes into schools, into churches and gives motivational speeches. He loves people because he has learned to love himself. Isn't it time for us to see we can love ourselves, we have arms and legs and still can't find happiness. Isn't happiness found the same way love, trust and forgiveness is found? Start with yourself and let the garden bloom. One flower at a time. You will be amazed.

The Blame Game

Is it time that we start looking at our own actions, instead of seeing others for their mistakes and start looking in the mirror and seeing what we are doing wrong.

In my marriages, I was so quick to point the finger and say that it was my wife, instead of seeing that it was me, instead of looking in the mirror, I was quick to say it was others. The jobs I have been laid off from, I was quick to say it was others, they didn't like me, instead of seeing that change starts with me.

In our relationships, our marriages, is it time to stop looking at our partners and saying if only they would do this differently, or if they would do that, it is time that we start making the changes in ourselves.

If you go to church, what do they focus on? Do they point fingers at everyone else instead of saying change starts inside and then it will grow, but if we are not willing to change ourselves how then can we expect others to change? How can we expect our kids to change? How can we expect our partners to change? Change starts with us, it starts with me and in order for others to change, I have to be willing to change, taking responsibility for my own actions, my own failures. I failed in my marriages, I blamed my wife when I should have seen it was me. I blamed her circumstances instead of seeing that it was me.

It is time that we stand up to see the changes that we need to make in ourselves. No one is perfect, but I can't look at others, I can only see where I have failed. Isn't it time to change?

A thought I have heard

If you do not stand in your faith,
You do not stand at all.

Inner Demons

I was struggling with something for the last week and then I realized it was myself that I was fighting with. I need my words to match my actions all the way through. Others may do it, but it doesn't mean it is right for me.

My words need to match my actions, just because I write on here doesn't mean I can act differently in real life. I can't challenge you, but do something different. I can't say in order to love we must surrender all and then not be willing to surrender a piece of myself because I am selfish. I must surrender all, it doesn't matter what I have lost, what matters is what I will gain from living correctly and living how I speak.

Me = My Words + My Actions

No other calculations is in order.