I think one of the biggest lies ever told of today, is that we do not have to do anything for things to happen. Yes, you heard me right. See, we have this idea that in order to change we have to just sit there and it will happen. That is so not true. I have experience 3 deaths in my family and we are grieving, however in the grieving process there is things that we truly go through, but if we do not attempt to forgive, we will not get through them. I have found it interesting that people will say things like I am not there yet, or I can't get there, yet they have not even tried. They say I can't let it go, but they have not even tried to let it go, because they think that it is just going to happen, they don't realize that it is a choice they have to make. The lie of this world is that we think just by doing nothing that things will change, how many times in life have you gotten somewhere by doing nothing at all? I bet you can't answer that? Because no time in our life can we do or accomplish anything good by doing nothing at all, we can't make things work, by doing nothing. We have to put in effort, we have to work, we have to want something in order to get something, if we want something in return, we have to work at it. In order to gain on our return, we must put in work.
It is not easy to lose people, don't get me wrong, yes there is grief, yes there is sadness. I am not saying that will not come, yes I go through hard points in my day, but if we hold onto the anger and resentment towards those people, we will never move through the grieving process, we will not get to the point where we need to be. Today I still have not buried my mother, because of the person that is grieving her loss has not finished the point of the burial, because he is to angry with her to finish it. He is only worried about his anger to see the hurt he is causing others. That is what anger and resentment can do, it will fester inside of us and cut the living off and cause issues in the ones that we love. Don't allow the living to suffer from not dealing with the things, by believing the lies that have been told to us, that we do not have to do anything, that time will do it, because time will not do it, we have to take the steps to get through it.
It is time to take the steps to get through things, it will hurt, it will be hard, but what things that are easy really last? Good things take work and are hard, but they last. Look at a house, a straw house is easy to build you can lean straw up and it will be built in a day, but one big storm comes and it will blow away. Take time to build and the storm comes and it will not blow down. That is the same with everything, life takes work, relationships take work, put in the work, put in the time, put in the effort, because only then will the things that took the time last. Grieving takes work, it doesn't just happen, don't listen to the lie that it will just happen on its on. How many people are still grieving after years, because they are still waiting for it to happen? Hard lessons, but they don't want to hear the truth, but the truth will set them free. How many of us are afraid of the truth?
