Admitting

I have found that I do not like admitting I am wrong, I don't like apologizing for my actions. I have found it is easier to say that it is because someone upset me that I reacted how I did. Yes, it is easier, but is that the truth. It reminds me of the little kid that says the devil made me do it. We all have a freedom of choice and how I react has nothing to do with someone else, it is a choice that I make. It is on me and once I have begun to see that, it seems that I react more. When I feel like I am being attacked, I am likely to attack back, instead of stepping back to look at the situation, instead of seeing how it began I start the reaction and soon I am not the only one reacting, it begins a chain reaction of events.

What does God call me to do? Ephesians 4:31-32 "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." It is written in the bible to avoid such actions, because God knew that was human nature to react, but what He is saying it is time for us to rise above what the human nature is and to be more like Him. Or here is another verse: Galatians 6:5-10 "5 For each will have to bear his own load. 6 Let the one who is taught the word share all good things with the one who teaches. 7 Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. 8 For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. 9 And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. 10 So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith."

What we chose to do, are our choices. We can't say God that was because Joe made me mad, I acted that way, because again I am pointing my finger at Joe, but know what it was my choice to be that way. You say to me, it is how I was raised, but God says we are born again, we are given new choices to walk in His way, not our way. For what was old is falling away and what is now, is living for Christ Jesus our Lord and our King. When we allow Him to move and have His being in me, I am a new creation. I fail and I still react, but it doesn't mean I am not learning, it just means that I am acknowledging that I am learning and growing. Jesus is turning up the heat.

I have found being willing to take accountability for my actions is the right thing to do. I don't like saying I was wrong, I am sorry, but that is what God calls us to do. To humble ourselves one to another. Asking forgiveness does not mean I am weak, just the opposite, it means I am strong enough to say I am wrong, strong enough to say I am sorry and stop blaming others, stand for God.


Matthew 7

Judging Others
7 “Judge not, that you be not judged. 2 For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.

6 “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.

Ask, and It Will Be Given
7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? 11 If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!

The Golden Rule
12 “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

13 “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy[a] that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. 14 For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.

A Tree and Its Fruit
15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. 16 You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17 So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. 18 A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Thus you will recognize them by their fruits.

I Never Knew You
21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’

Build Your House on the Rock
24 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. 26 And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”

The Authority of Jesus
28 And when Jesus finished these sayings, the crowds were astonished at his teaching, 29 for he was teaching them as one who had authority, and not as their scribes.

These are not my words, but taken right from the Word of God, the Bible. 

Blaming

What happens when I point my finger at someone else and say it is there fault, if they would do this differently, I would react better, instead of looking at the route of the problem. It is easy to say if someone else would change things would be so much better, but what happens when I point?



This is so true, it is easier to tell someone else to change, but so much harder to look at myself. It is time for me to look at me. I can't change other people, but I can work on changing me. God brings hardships into our life so that He may teach us and train us how to deal with them. Maybe I want to ignore them or blame others, but when I see that I have to take responsibility for my actions, I stop saying if you did this, or you did that and say I was wrong and we work together. When we blame, we stop working together and allow the devil to make a wedge.

Never withhold love from the ones you love, for as soon as I do that, I have allowed the devil to put doubt, fear and separation into my life. God wasn't kidding when He said don't allow the sun to go down on your anger, because this creates issues in a marriage. We can't compare ourselves to others, because what is God calling me to, may be different then what God is calling someone else too. I must be willing to say Lord how do you want to use our marriage, really your marriage? Who am I putting first? Myself or you and then who? God help me to put my spouse first, help me to stop getting angry at the little things and start focusing on how you have designed marriage.

Time to train by doing, instead of blaming others, say Lord change me. I want to be the husband You call me to be, I want to be the man that You have designed me to be. I want to stop saying if they did it differently and take hold of what the Lord wants. I must turn it over to Him, for He is the one that will ultimately bring us through difficult times, His way and not ours.

Have a good day!