Blaming

What happens when I point my finger at someone else and say it is there fault, if they would do this differently, I would react better, instead of looking at the route of the problem. It is easy to say if someone else would change things would be so much better, but what happens when I point?



This is so true, it is easier to tell someone else to change, but so much harder to look at myself. It is time for me to look at me. I can't change other people, but I can work on changing me. God brings hardships into our life so that He may teach us and train us how to deal with them. Maybe I want to ignore them or blame others, but when I see that I have to take responsibility for my actions, I stop saying if you did this, or you did that and say I was wrong and we work together. When we blame, we stop working together and allow the devil to make a wedge.

Never withhold love from the ones you love, for as soon as I do that, I have allowed the devil to put doubt, fear and separation into my life. God wasn't kidding when He said don't allow the sun to go down on your anger, because this creates issues in a marriage. We can't compare ourselves to others, because what is God calling me to, may be different then what God is calling someone else too. I must be willing to say Lord how do you want to use our marriage, really your marriage? Who am I putting first? Myself or you and then who? God help me to put my spouse first, help me to stop getting angry at the little things and start focusing on how you have designed marriage.

Time to train by doing, instead of blaming others, say Lord change me. I want to be the husband You call me to be, I want to be the man that You have designed me to be. I want to stop saying if they did it differently and take hold of what the Lord wants. I must turn it over to Him, for He is the one that will ultimately bring us through difficult times, His way and not ours.

Have a good day!