Have you ever thought about words and how we use them? Have you thought about how they define us? I will not do a study on words, but I do study how people talk and I listen to people when they talk to me. It intrigues me to hear when people have issues in their lives and marriages to listen to them. You can tell a lot about them by the words they use.
I will explain. When someone is speaking to you, if they are more interested in only speaking about themselves, they can't look at things from another persons point of view, you can tell that they are self focused or self centered. This is a red flag, this is a huge warning sign on any front. The issue is we called to look at things from others peoples perspectives instead of just looking at it through our eyes. We can't make an honest assessment of any situation from our perspective only, we miss so much by looking at it through only our eyes. We miss feelings, we miss how other will feel. If we only see things through our eyes, we don't take into account anyone else and that is a huge issue.
In a marriage if a person only speaks in the "I" or "my" speak, like "my house", "my room" instead of saying "ours" it is also an issue. When 2 people get married these things become a joint bond, they become one. They share, there is no longer a my about anything, there is no longer a possession about anything. If one is trying to be possessive of things, that is a red flag as well. The "my's" need to be changed, it has to be conscious effort to change this, because that is a direct impact on the marriage. This becomes a battle ground in a marriage, because the other spouse will see this as a possession of ones things, verses sharing.
Words are not just words, but a tool. They mean so much more than what people think. They come from the heart of us all. They emanate what we can't say, they say what we think, they mean more than what we want to portray, but they still come full circle and then they spew from our mouths and we can't take them back. Be careful what you say, because those words are sharper then a double edge sword, they pierce like a knife, they cause more harm then good. The words you speak portray your intentions more than anything else does. So when you speak, choose your words carefully, make sure every word is picked and selected for the occasion you are in.
Bottom line, life is not about you, think about the others that you are influencing with your words. Speak carefully, remember your words will last longer than anything else.
