What you put into things you get out of those things. In our relationships our marriages, what we put into them we get out of them. I think we all struggle with this, but we seem to think just because we are married, that we are entitled to something. If you put a percent of your time into the marriage, you are not entitled to anything. Example: (I love examples, experiments...)
Take a gallon jug and fill it up to the top and pour it out, what do you get out of it? You get a gallon of water. Now put a drop of water into it, what do you get out of it? That drop of water, doesn't seem to want to pour out. See the more time, effort, and everything we put into our relationships, the more we get out of them. I think the key is, we can't expect anything in return. Have you ever said, I washed the floor, don't I get... Or I mowed the lawn. See we are expecting something for our efforts, our labor, but we need to expect nothing and continue to give. Men, women are different then us. If you are a man reading this, women think on a different plain then we do. We need to stop thinking about what we do, but how we do it, what we say, what we do not say. We need to express our love not just in that word, but in our actions. We have forgotten how to love, how to reach into peoples lives without expecting things in return. Have you noticed that you do things, but get nothing out of them? If you have, stop looking for the something and continue to do. You have to work at relationships, they do not come free.
When you first met the person you are with, you spent a lot of time with them. You learned about them, you put time and effort into them, but as you got further into the relationship, you stopped spending so much time with them. Work started getting busy and life got in the way. It is time you stop focusing on work, and start focusing on the one you are with. Work comes and goes, but your wife, your husband will be with you until you are taken from this earth. Your partner has been with you through the good and the bad, it is time to start studying them again. Each day it should be your goal to find something else out new about your partner. Don't be afraid, take the first steps and know what is going to happen, that connection that you thought was gone, is going to start forming again.
People think they fall out of love, but the truth is, you just took your focus off the one you are with and started focusing on other people, on other things. Bring your focus back to the one you are with and know what will happen? Why don't you try it and let me know... It is time that we put our partners first, the more we do this the more we will see that we are falling in love with them all over again. Hard choices, come hard steps, but it is time to climb the staircase, take your relationship to the next level. Don't run away, take the first step.
Only time will tell. But when both of you; the people in the relationship do this, what do you think happens? Again, try it and let me know. Isn't it time to take marriage back, lets fight for what we want, instead of rolling over and giving up. It is time to fight. Stand up for your wife, stand up for your husband. Stand strong and know it will pay off.
Time to stand, time for the first step. Are you ready? It is time for changes, and changes will start with you, with your choices.
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