Feelings

Feelings: an emotional state or reaction. That is the Webster dictionary definition of feelings, it is an emotional state or reaction, that isn't based on anything other than our own selves. It can be based on pains from our past or even just our human reaction.

If you think of a small baby, they cry when they are hungry or a small child they react to being told no, they didn't learn that behavior, it is just part of them. The throw a temper tantrum, it isn't because they saw someone do it, it is just who they are, they are human. If a child is caught doing something wrong, they don't learn to lie, they do it out of reaction, out of feeling. Just the same as adults we base how we are on the very feeling of what we are feeling. It may not be a learn behavior, it is just how the human flesh reacts, does that make it bad, yes, because Jesus Christ died on the cross and He has given us a new way to react, not basing it on ourselves, which He says is selfishness, He says base how you are on "Me", but when we are not doing that, we are basing how we are on the human flesh that when we go through the waters of baptism, the old flesh is suppose to fall away and the new flesh, the Godly flesh is suppose to come alive in us. That means the way we use to react when we were not saved is no longer a part of us, but that takes work on our part, that takes saying it isn't about me, but about God. That takes us being willing to be laughed at, be mocked by others, because it is no longer about I, but Christ in me.

We are called to do this in our marriages, we are called to do this in our daily lives, when we no longer react out of our own selfish desires, our own selfish ways, we must be able to say it is not about "I", but Christ who lives in me. Can you imagine how things will change when we stop being reactionary, stop basing things on how "I" feel, but start basing on how Jesus feels. That movie a long time ago, based on a kid asking what would Jesus do (The Woodcarver)? That was a child, that is what we are suppose to be like, all you children come unto Me. Children know that there meals come from the adults, they may question us, but without us they know they will not survive, just like we need to be with Jesus, without Him we will not survive.

Isn't it time to stop basing a reaction on a state of emotion and start basing it on what God thinks? Isn't it time for a change? I don't know how to spell it out anymore clearly, but God has stated in the Bible, He has demonstrated it, the pastors are calling for it, it is written everywhere, but we are missing it, we are blind because all we care about is "how I feel". When does it start being about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ? How does He feel? What causes Him pain? Didn't our sins cause Him death, when will our choices start demonstrating our love for Him?

Today ask yourself: "How would Jesus want my marriage to be? How would Jesus want me to feel? How would Jesus react to this? How does Jesus feel about what I am feeling right now? What would Jesus do?" And when you get those answers, start doing it, because that is the only way to start working on true change.