Follow Your Heart

How many have you heard that saying. I have heard people say follow your heart it does not lie. Or do what feels good and it can't be wrong. How about Just Do It... Well, guess what today I want to talk about our hearts.

This isn't an easy one to write, because I think I am guilty of doing this more then others. I thought for the longest time that my heart did not lie, that the direction it leads me I should follow. I was wrong in almost all the cases by following my heart. Our hearts are full of feelings and sometime those feelings are not rational, alright most of the time they are not rational. I hate admitting that maybe sometimes I am not rational, please don't tell anyone OK.

When I have followed my heart and thrown all the cares aside, it has landed me in pain and destruction. I was lost, because the only way I thought was to follow the thing that wanted to feel. Our hearts want to feel love all the time, it wants to feel excepted, it wants to feel needed and when it does not feel that whether in a relationship, marriage or even friendship, it wants us to bale, jump ship, because how can this be love if I don't feel it today, or for a month or more.

At this point we are making choices, we have focused so much on what our heart wants, we have lost sight of what we have been doing and the ways we have not focused on the one we are in love with. See it is so easy to point fingers, it is so easy to say they stopped loving me, or they don't understand me, but when was the last time you took a minute to try and understand them. I look at how I wanted to feel loved and excepted. Men we look at the physical and a woman looks at the emotional. Do your words line up with your actions? I know I could say I love you all day long, but my actions were selfish, I wanted to make others love me the way I thought they should.

When we do not feel like loving, it has to be a choice. It is time we start leading our hearts, we will have days where we do not feel like loving, or we do not feel loved, but love is surrender and when both of you are willing to surrender that your heart isn't always right and that it doesn't know best, I believe you will form a bond that is unbreakable.

Our hearts are full of deceit and the quicker we realize that the better we will be. Our hearts will lie to get us to do things that maybe we know are wrong. Your mind knows when your heart is going on one of its tangents, but if we do not admit that our heart lies, then we will not listen to our mind. Listen to the voice that does not throw caution to the wind and lead your heart away from the fools errands. Fools errands will lead to destruction, they will lead you down paths that are painful and will destroy you in the long run. Lead your heart when it wants you to run to easier things.

The heart wants to do things that feel good, that do not bring pain, that do not bring hardship, but what relationship does not have hard times? If we followed our hearts all the time, we would just from one relationship to another, until we thought we find the right one. It is when we realize that all relationships will have hard times. We will struggle, but when we both work together, the stronger we will be.

Change begins with you, don't point fingers. Don't point out what your wife or husband isn't doing, think about yourself, look in the mirror and are you following your heart, or are you leading it? Love is a choice, did you hear me? Some days we do not feel like loving the one we are with, but it is a choice. The more you realize that love isn't all about feelings, the closer you are to understanding love. Love is being willing to surrender your feelings and so much more. Love is more then a 4 letter word.