Hard Choices

It is time to wake up. We are growing accustom to the turmoil and garbage around us. We seek what isn't ours, we search for what we can't have. We love to feel danger and it excites us, but what is it that excites us? We have a thirst for what is wrong, not because that is what we are, but that is what we see around us. It is our choices that we are making to drive us to this point in our lives. If you watch TV or movies you see that marriage is not what it use to be. We see people walking out because it got to hard, we see separation from it all because something better came along. We see the whole meaning of marriage crumbling before us, because we want it easy. We have forgotten how to feel, we have forgotten what it means to be friends, we have forgotten more then we have actually learned. Isn't it time to take the responsibility for these actions?

Take marriage for example, we enter it as a union, agree to work together, but when the going gets tough we think it is alright to go. But in actuality when did it become alright? If we want to teach our kids what it really means to for commitment, we need to stay committed. Marriage is a union of two minds, marriage is a connection of two souls and you have agreed to let the other be there for you regardless. We have forgotten the meaning of marriage. Your best friend is the woman you are with or the man it is together, not just in easy and good times, it is together in all times. When the going gets tough, you share, you open up and you work together. It isn't the woman doing all the cooking and cleaning it is a joint unity of two people.

It use to be the man brought home the money, but now it takes 2 to do that. You need to be willing to work together, to communicate, to be open and honest with each other. Guess what the chemistry will die, but it is your choice to let it die or work together to keep it. It is time we start leading our hearts, because are hearts want what is easy, but sometimes marriage is not easy, sometimes we fight and we get angry, but the choices that we make is to take responsibility for our actions and stop blaming the other, start working together. You are in it together not just for the first year, but for life.

Stop looking for an easy solution out of marriage and start looking at yourself, because if you want change, it begins with you. Don't tell me it is her fault you are like this, start taking pride in who you are and start being the man that you need to be. Change in your marriage begins with you. I have heard people say, what happens if the change doesn't start helping my partner change? Well, by you changing, you will change and the things that you thought drove you crazy, will start making sense. We need to change ourselves and infect the other with who we are.

Men, if you are reading this, your wives need to understand what they mean to you. Nope words don't cut it anymore. Your actions need to back up your words. It is one thing to say I love you, but when you say it and your actions say it too, by helping out, by getting up off your but and doing the dishes, start doing thing around the house, not what is expected, but what is not. Stop blaming her for the problems and start seeing the problems start somewhere and it is better to think they started with you, and making changes. Don't try and change her, change yourself. For in changing you, you will see a change in her. Don't call attention to it, but start the process today, stop putting it off, for who knows how long you have.

Stop blaming everyone else and start changing. It will affect your life, marriage, relationships, work, family, kids and everything around you. Don't say you have tried it and it has failed, for it is time to believe that in change comes life and it isn't to late.

CHANGE STARTS WITH YOU!!!