Changing

Change starts with you!!!

• Have you ever noticed when you look at others you can find fault with everything they are doing?
• Have you looked at your relationship and seen so many ways you wish that your significant other would change, or would be better?

You are not alone, but the problem comes in, you are not responsible for them changing, nor can you ask them to change, because know what even though they are you significant other, they are their own person. Who needs to really change? It is you, it is me, we can find fault with others so easy, but when we look at how we handle things we fail to see that if we would change, that they may change as well.

If you take marriage for example, we want more of this or that, but instead of saying the good we see we are so quick to point out the bad. Change your perspective on all of this and start seeing the good that your significant others has. Thank you or I appreciates go so much further then you did this wrong. We build up walls to the people we say we love, because we get tired of hearing the negative, so we fight with negative words, with negative actions and we do not build the person up, we are quicker to tear them down.

Today is not about tearing anyone down, but build them up. When a fight errupts, don't point fingers at them and say negative or hurtful things, make statements about yourself, I feel like this when you say that, I feel hurt when you we fight. Change the statements from pointing fingers to explaining your hurts, your frustration. Take a minute to think before you say anything and by doing so, you will learn communication. Lack of communication is a huge problem in marriages, in relationships acrossed the board. Learn to talk, not just with hateful words, but with encouraging words, with showing the one you are with that you appreciate them, for who they are.

Did you understand what I just said? Are you following me? We have forgotten how to be nice, we have forgotten how to not demand things, we have forgotten not to take things forgranted and know whos fault that is? No it is not your parents, nope not your girlfriends, nope not your kids, nor your wife or husband, the blame falls on you, it falls on me. It is time to stop looking to blame others and realize that change starts righ at home in your own life. Change yourself and you will change the situation, stop looking at blaming everyone else and see it is you that needs to change.

Doesn't that hurt hearing that? It is probably very difficult to hear and very hard to do, but it is possible and you can do it, guess what, even I can and continue to do it.

• Change yourself and by doing this, you will effectively change the way you look at things and you will change the people around you.
• Stop blaming others and start looking at yourself.
• Stop fighting with anger and start communicating how it feels to be you.
• Stop telling your significant other how to change and now you start changing.
• Live by example and remember "Treat others how you want to be treated."