My weekend was full of life and joys. It is always interesting coming through the dark cloud and seeing what is on the other side. We all have dark days, but it is not dwelling in the darkness that surrounds us, but seeing that the darkness will pass and making sure it does pass.

The lessons I keep learning are very interesting. I have heard from more people that their husbands have forgotten how to be husbands. Men, I don't know how to reach out to you, how to get others to hear what I have to say. We all understand how to date, but once married we seem to lose our way. Why do we lose our way? Your wives need to be encouraged, to be remembered even when it isn't valentines day that you love them. It doesn't matter if you work every day, it doesn't matter that you come home to them, but what does matter is that you want to be apart of their lives. It is time for us men to start being men. Stop looking other places to be happy, be happy at home. Show your wives you love them, express to them that they are the most important person to you. It is time that we start putting them first no matter what.

We have lost our way. Valentines day is not the only day you show your wife love. Love is not expecting anything in return for your actions. Love is giving and not looking to get back. Love is putting your wife, girlfriend first and that is even before your feelings. Can you imagine the more you give to them, what that might do? Stop thinking of yourself and start thinking about her, stop thinking about what you will get back and start thinking about how much more you can give. We have become a selfish greedy people, only thinking of what we can do and what we want back, it is time to stop thinking about ourselves and thinking of others. It is time to stop looking to other women to make us happy and realize what is the most important person is right at home. How long will it take? Start today to make a difference.

Today is a new Valentines day, what will it take for you to do something special for your wife. Let her know you care. Listen to her, do the dishes, take a moment to make sure she knows you love her and by doing that you will see life and love again. It is time we flick the match and start the fires in our own relationships, stop looking elsewhere and start looking homeward. It is time we make a change and the change starts right here. Will you join with me today to make a difference?

Additional Thoughts

So many times we want to look to others for the answer we are searching for. Why isn't my wife loving me like she use to? Or why do we seems so disconnected? Do those sound familiar? Do you struggle to find why you think she isn't attracted to you, or she doesn't want sex anymore. You think of so many reasons why that could be and then you start thinking about looking elsewhere for what you are not getting at home, or you just give up. When those questions pop into your head, it is time to start looking at yourself, instead of looking elsewhere. What can you do to change who you are? The answers you seek are change your perspective and change yourself. It is time we start changing ourselves men, time to start seeing the problems do not lie in our wives, but the problem started in us, by us forgetting the very thing that we claimed was so important, start making it the most important again. Start cherishing her and loving her, start rekindling the flame that is out or dwindling. It isn't about sex, but about something much deeper and it starts with you.

Men it is time we start taking responsibility for our actions. Stop trying to blame it on our wives, stop trying to blame it on how we were raised and start taking a step back and look at yourself. I know I have had to do this too and I do it every day. What can I change in myself to be a better man, a better husband, a better father, a better friend, a better worker. It is time we start taking a stand for what we believe in and it starts in us, each of us have to be willing to change. Don't look to change others, before that can happen you have to change yourself. Are you willing to change? Change starts with you.