Husbands and Wives

To all of you married or in a relationship, it is high time we start learning how to live and how to love together. I have heard so many people say, I feel like he is my brother, or she is my sister and they have lost the connection that they once shared. And they wonder what to do about it, or they have given up all together.

It is not time to give up, it is time to take action. You want more for your relationship, then stop looking elsewhere for it and start seeing that it is yours to have. Let me explain something that we tend not to see, or maybe because we forget, but our hearts love to feel. Am I right? We love the feeling of love, we love to the feeling of being excepted and we love it so much we were able to look past all the negative things about our spouse. Then once married a little while, we start seeing them, or we have others start pointing them out. First of all, your marriage, your relationship is yours. Time to stand up and deal with it. Back to my point, our hearts want to feel and so when it stops feeling we think that we don't love the other person, or that we didn't love them to begin with, that is not true. What we have is a problem that needs to be fixed.

Our hearts need to be lead by our minds. We need to take the situation and stop looking at all the bad, stop pointing out the things that our wives our husbands do not do, and start being thankful for all they do. The more we focus on the bad, the more bad will come. Change your focus, start out small, thank him or her for the way they held your hand, or the kiss you recieve in the morning. It is time to change our perspective. Men other women are not the answer, you will have the same issues you are seeing now, because you have to deal with the problem, the problem is not your wife, the problem started in you. And it does work both ways, I am not a woman.

It is time that we take marriage back, stop looking elsewhere for the answers and start looking at yourself. Do you know if you start changing yourself you will see a change in your spouse, in your mate and that bond that you want will begin to form. Stop looking at the negatives and start looking at the positives and change your focus daily.

The biggest thing I can say, is the answer does not lie in other men or women, it lies in you. Change your persepective and you change more things then you may know. Don't give up, it is time to ignite the flame.