We have forgotten how to be...

Our lives are filled with work, with family, friends, the hustle, bustle of moving, but without purpose. I started my first job in the late 1990's and one of my bosses would ask me what are my goals. I would tell him the usual work goals and he would say no Geoff, what are your life goals. It didn't make a lot of sense to me until I found that life is not where I work, that it isn't what I do, but life is who I am.

How many people express themselves as what they do? Is it because we have lost, maybe even forgotten how to be a person, not a worker, but someone that can think outside of their job.

Men this is for you, don't run away. Are you married or in a relationship? What is more important the money you bring home, or your significant other? We tend to think that work is more import, yeah it pays the bills, but other then that what does it do for you? We are all numbers, but at home we are special. Maybe you don't feel that way, but think when was the last time you did something for your other half? No valentines day or her birthday do not count. When did you cook her a special meal? When did you ask about her day first before spouting off about yours? When was the last time you didn't bring work home? When was the last time you didn't talk about work? It is time to be men, start dating your significant other again, send her text messages throughout the day letting her know you are thinking of her. Don't expect anything in return, you have a lot of ground to make up,  but it is worth it. Let's put the m back in marriages. You have put football, sports, beer, tv, friends, work and other things before your wife long enough. Is this hard to hear? Well men change begins with you, with me and until you start changing, how do you expect your wife to know just how special you find them.

It is time we men start being me, it is time we start putting our wives before ourselves. It is a daily choice, not a one time thing. Take a stand and be a man. Stop looking at other women, your wife/girlfriend is who you chose, stop looking for feelings other places. Be a man.

Ok, our jobs do not define us. We have to make choices and first choice is what is more important to you? Start making changes and show the one you are with just how much they mean to you. Stop running away and admit that you have failed up until this point and now is time for change. Change begins with you.