Why

As we grow up we tend to ask why a lot. But I don't think it just ends when we have grown up, I think it continues through our lives. Maybe not as much as we hear our kids asking, but we do ask why in different ways, or about different things.

Have you noticed that the we do this? Why did our marriage fall apart? Why did God let it happen? See it is across the board, but maybe it isn't in the why that matters, maybe it is in the how. We say why a lot, but maybe we should change it to How did our marriage fall apart? Instead of placing the blame with a why, we start taking the blame for our actions, for our reactions. Instead of being reactional we start being proactive.

In your relationships, when challenged do you react, or do you think before you speak? Today make a mental note, if you do not have anything positive to say, do not say anything at all. Bite your tongue when your partner wants to attack you, take a step back and as HOW can I answer this better, HOW can I change my prospective? How can I be a better partner?

All to often we want to rise to the occasion of a fight. Don't, step back and ask how.

Today is the first day to start making a difference and that difference begins with you.