Before we can truly express love to someone else, we must first love ourselves. Loving ourselves does not mean to be egotistical or even think you are better then anyone. It is excepting yourself for who you are, for how you look, for how God made you. When we are able to see ourselves in a different way other then how we look at others, we are able to understand more about love.
If you think about how God loves us, that is how we should love ourselves. Can you imagine seeing yourself through the eyes of God? Are you a glowing white ember or are you spotted with filth and garbage, unclean? We can't truly love until we truly understand the love that God has for us, until we understand how to see ourselves not through human eyes, but see ourselves as a work in progress, as someone that is in change. We don't need to pick every flaw we have and think I want to change that and this. We love ourselves by excepting even our flaws and saying in time those to will change and if not, that is how I am. If we can't except our flaws, how are we going to except others? Breaking News, we all have flaws, even the ones that don't think we do, don't let them fool you. It is in learning that even with our flaws that we change, changing is good, contrary to others opinions.
When we learn to love, we learn how to love. We learn that loving ourselves is a choice, yes it is hard to make, but it is possible. Stop looking and start excepting yourself for who you are. Make the choice to except yourself today. In time you will start seeing the changes mentally that happens to you. You will no longer look for others to give you the affirmation that we all long for and you will start feeling it, sensing it and start sharing that with others. It is a process, it doesn't happen overnight, but it is possible. Believe in yourself, in your choices and the more positive choices you make, the more positive choices will come and soon you will be able to share that as well. We can focus on the negative, the flaws or we can see ourselves as changing. It is a choice, we can either suffer through life wanting to find happiness, or we can see the joy of life and in the joy we can live. It is all a choice.
Self help books will tell you that you need to find happiness, but happiness is in happenings. Find the joy that has been presented to you each day, the joy of life, the joy of getting up, the joy of a new day that is a choice and guess what you have a choice to get out of bed or stay in bed, what is your choice today?
The last thought for today. What if Peace and Joy is not found, but just excepted? What a difference, you already have it, but you have forgotten about it. Stop looking for it and be thankful for having it. Watch what happens, it isn't about finding outside of ourselves, but inside ourselves. I am a firm believer that we all have it, but it is just finding that joy, that peace. It is a choice. Those who look for it elsewhere will only find brief feelings, fading with time, but once you find it in yourself, you will be able to share it, to spread it and be thankful when you do find it. Not found in other people, but in yourself.
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