Preparation

As I look back over the last week of what I have shared, I realize that everything that I have shared was in preparation for the news that I received yesterday. I am thankful that the lessons I am learning are in accordance to what is happening in my life. How many times have you gone through and issue to only remember the past few days of preparation to solve the problem? Well, I am happy to say it happened to me.

The news I received yesterday could cause extreme hurt, disappointment and so much more, but knowing that the door has closed, has only opened up others. I am relieved to know that my faith, my happiness, my joy, my self worth does not rest on a person or someone else. It is about what I believe in.

I have found that some people believe that they will be happy if they meet so and so, or they will be completed, but yet when it comes down to it, they are not. They feel empty and alone even when they are with that person. It isn't because that person isn't right for them, but because they have to find the joy within themselves and find the joy in the who they are. It is stated somewhere that in order to love others we must first love ourselves. That means if you can't be happy with who you are, then how will you truly know love?

We can't be completed by others, but first we need to find the completeness in ourselves, in what we believe in or who. And guess what... then we can find our match, but not until then, we will continue searching, we will look to what feels good and when the feeling dies so does our relationship. It is about choices, it is about completeness, it is about so much more then a feeling. Feelings come and go, but a choice a belief will stay. Isn't it time to stop looking for other people to complete who we are and see who we are as complete and look to others to add to us? What a concept.

I would not have seen any of this 1 year ago or more, but it is in finding that no person can make me filled with joy, yes happiness is a feeling it comes and go, but joy is a state of mind. Do you see the difference? What are feelings and what is truly true? That is what you have to figure out. Love can be a feeling, yes you are right, but it is also a state of mind. If I chose to love, then therefor it doesn't matter if I feel love, it is a state of being. Isn't it time even when we don't "feel" like loving, that we chose to love. If we say I give and give and give and get nothing, what are we looking for? We are looking for affirmation of what we have done, it is also a feeling, it is a choice. Stop looking for something and start just enjoying the point of giving.

Is it time for a change? Or do we want to continue basing life on feelings? What will change if you are able to separate feelings from reality? Your choices will make the difference, but they are yours. Stop trying to change the other person and see what you need to change in yourself.