I listen to a message the other day about serving. How we are missing it as people, we must serve the church. However I think that isn't the right way to think of it.
It is sad when we are dating, we have a thought that the relationship we are in is part of service, so we create the triangle, which is God at the top and the person we are courting at the right of us. That is the service we conduct, but as soon as the relationship turns to marriage, that is no longer true. We tend to think we have to serve others before we serve our spouse. We go to work and serve the people we work with, we serve the church and when we get home, we have no energy left to serve the very person that God calls us to serve first. We say this is OK, because we are serving others, but I don't believe that is true at all. That triangle is broken and that is the struggle we have in marriages. Because yes marriage works when we serve, but we have to serve one another first. We can't serve the church until we are will to serve one another, there is a grey area here, it is because we come from a broken world, but in the world that each spouse is serving God, this should work.
If we are more willing to serve others before our spouse, we are not better than the world. We forget what Jesus taught us about marriage, we have to treat the one we are with just like He would. If we can't do that, we are breaking the very trust that we have formed.
We tend to miss the very essence of the idea that God has wanted for us. If we are putting others first before our spouse we are breaking the very thing that God intended.
This happens when we are not willing to serve our spouse. Service to our spouse happens when we put away the things we want, just like we did when we were dating.
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