Wondering

Why is it so difficult to understand love?

I failed at understanding this. I thought love was all about me. Sex and love making are not the same thing. Saying I love you means nothing unless you show her by your actions that you do and no it isn't just doing house chores it is doing more.

I have talked with more people in hard situations. There husbands or wives have forgotten what it is to be in love. Men search for love elsewhere, they take up there time with there own things and forget that marriage isn't just about them. Guys, you won the most amazing prize, don't just put it on a shelf and forget about it. Your wives deserve attention, they deserve you to surrender your wants and to put them before yourselves, just as you did when you were dating. Isn't it time you stop searching out others and fix your marriage?

We all do it, we think because we look at someone else that we must not love the one we are with. We start to question our feelings for that person, wondering did we make a mistake... Or the spark is gone, have you ever thought that. Well, change starts with you, if you want the spark back light the fire.

Guys, this is for you. Sex is a prize, it isn't what love is. Love is us laying down what we want and giving our wives what they desire. Love is not a fight. Love making does not just happen in the bedroom, it happens when you get up in the morning, before work when you kiss her good bye. No, love making is not sex, it is what you do to build the connection all day long. Just because she doesn't want sex does not mean she loves you less. Work on making her feel special every single day. Stop whining that you didn't get to watch the game and start seeing that the more you give, the more she will give.

Everyone stop looking outside of your marriage for what is missing in it. Change starts with you. We say if she would do this differently, I would be happy. Guess what, stop looking for things in her or him and start asking yourself what can I do to make this marriage, this relationship unbreakable.

Isn't it time we step up our game and start putting the ones we are with before ourselves?