Responsibility

Have you noticed a decrease in people taking responsibility for their own actions? Have you noticed they feel the right to blame others, instead of taking the ownership on themselves. 

I have been noticing this is a common issue. That people are not willing to look at themselves, they want someone else to blame. They have grown increasingly unable to see past others to see themselves. I don't know what the cause is, but it is getting worse. You see the violence increasing and people can't see that it is their own choices, but they blame their parents, they blame society. They are unwilling to look within themselves. 

This is a great issue, because if we are unable to see our own actions, we are unable to fix the problem. Common places to blame:

• Our parents
• The way we were raised
• The actions of someone else
• What we were taught
• The other persons reaction
• What we watched
• They were mad
• The devil made me do it
• They hit me

The list goes on and on, but nowhere in there is the reason we reacted the way we did. 

Yes, we may have had a tough childhood, maybe we were treated poorly or so many other reasons, that doesn't make us respond badly. There are so many people that had a tough childhood that saw the truth of their own actions. They are their actions, not someone else's, they are their own choices, not someone else's. That is the defining factor, when we put the ownership on someone else, we don't think that we have to deal with the problem, but the truth is we have only blamed someone for our own choices.

We all have our own choices, when we stop blaming other people for what we have done, we start learning that our choices matter, that we matter, that what we do matters. It is on no one else, but ourselves. The more we blame other people, the less control we take from ourselves. If you look at what people are struggling with, it is control. They blame others for their lack of control, however if they would just stop blaming others and take control, it would change everything.

Today, look at yourself, see who you are based on you. Don't compare yourself, don't look at others to define you. You are your own definition and look at the last thing you blamed on someone else. Take ownership of your actions, of your reactions and see what a change it makes. Start small and work your way up, you will see the changes are incredible, but you have to start somewhere, why not start today. 

Today is the first day of the rest of your life, why not start it by saying I will not blame others for my choices that I made. See what a difference it makes.