This is not for the sensitive or people that are young and can't handle this. But we as a people need to stand up and be truthful in all things. How many people are afraid to share the real truth, nothing but the truth and don't share it at all.
Why get married, if all you are interested in is having a person their to talk too. What does marriage have that other relationships do not have? Oh so you can be monetarily sound, no that is not it, because marriage costs so much more. Is it so that you can have someone to talk too? Well, you could have that without marriage, so why marriage?
I believe sex is considered a taboo subject and most people think that it can only be discussed in a bedroom with the party you are with, however isn't that giving sex (making love) a bad name. Isn't that giving a side of it that is too secret to share with others. We have a society that is breaking down, marriages are falling apart, because people are to afraid to talk about the "S" word, people don't know where to turn for the truth. Yes, you can read about it in the Bible and yes if it is in the Bible it is important, however how many people do you hear sharing on it? You have to search it out, seek to find anything on it, because it is such a taboo subject. We don't say the "s" word, we can't talk about that, however why are marriages breaking down, what is happening in them?
People are blaming marriage breakdowns on lack of communication, or lack of something, but the truth is what binds a marriage together, what makes it more than a friendship? No, it isn't because you sleep in the same bed, it isn't because you are their together, that doesn't make anything different than anything else, it isn't that you have a marriage bond that says you are with this person for life, that is what is getting people, lets be honest.
I have heard a study, that most people do not perform the marriage act on their wedding night. What is the marriage act, that is making love to your spouse. Why don't people do this anymore? What has broken this down? Why do people not realize that the bases of a strong marriage isn't just sleeping in the bed together, but actually doing something in that bed. The study is in, that most people are only having sex once a month, what??? That is crazy, these are married couples, however sex is put on the back burner, that is what makes the difference between being friends only and being lovers.
I heard it stated that non Christians if they put a marble in a dish every time they have sex before they were married and then once they get married take the marble out, that they will not empty the container of marbles. Doesn't something seem to be wrong there? This is a huge problem, this is gripping our nation, because this is causing a fracture in our own homes. We are not willing to look at the root of the problem, we are not willing to look at the truth of it all.
Most people will see sex as just an act, however it is so much more than that. There is data that shows that each person you have sex with creates a link, a bond to that person. However that bond gross less and less the more people you have sex with. Then when you do get married, can you imagine the problem that creates if you don't maintain that bond? If you say, we live in the same house, we do all this stuff together, but you are missing the main reason for marriage, it is that you can make love to the person. We put the thing that God created on the backburner, we are not willing to see why marriage is marriage, because we can only think of ourselves.
We are a selfish people, only willing to satisfy the needs of ourselves. A married person that has a strong sex drive and the one that does not, the one that does not have that sex drive is the one that controls the climate of the marriage. Can you imagine being the one that has the stronger sex drive and it isn't being met, you feel isolated, alone, you can't figure out what you have done to create the issue, however you show love, you are their and soon that gets old, it is hard to be rejected time and time again, because you are not something. This is what is happening in marriages all around you, however no one is willing to see the truth, because no one talks about it, it is taboo. We wonder why marriages are ending, we think why did that person drift away, but the truth is the reason we get married to begin with, the reason that marriage is not just a friendship.
Sex is not taboo, it is not dirty, it is not bad when done in the marriage. This is the key, we can't think of it as a bad thing, we have to realize it was create not just to have kids, but to enjoy our spouse, to be something that is different than any other relationship. We are to show the other what they mean to us and the more we stop doing this, the more we create a fracture in our marriages. Maybe it is time to get back to the basics. I will take time to share the basics with you over the next few days. If you care to stay and read more.
Marriages is an illustration for other people around you. If other people see marriage as just a friendship, what do you think they will do in their marriage if they even get married. Isn't it time to portray the truth of why marriage is different?
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