Part 2 Sex the Taboo Subject

If you haven't read the first one, you should read it before this one, because it will make more sense to you. 

Marriages the partner thinks that the other can read their mind, finish their sentences, understand why they do what they do, however we are giving each other more than we should. We should not assume that the other one knows just what we are thinking, this is a dangerous game to play with anyone. We wouldn't do this to anyone else, why do we do it in our own marriages? Why do we assume that the other knows just what we are thinking? Don't play this game, because you are playing Russian roulette. Don't assume, you know what they say about assuming, it makes an ass out of you and me. . 

There are 3 steps that people who are in a marriage are missing (disclaimer, there could be more). 

1. Know your partners love language and become an expert in it. This will allow our partners to feel connected to us.
• Words of affirmation (Building up words)
• Quality time (Just as it states, spending specific time with your partner).
• Physical touch (Touching, not necessarily sexual, but all ways helps).
• Acts of service (Doing things to help your spouse out, not limited to anything)
• Receiving gifts (Flowers, cards, notes don't think to much is ever enough)
2. When your partner is asking for more of something, don't think it is just if you feel like it, because for example sex isn't just sex, it is the act of connecting. This action is only taken with our spouse, not with anyone else, it isn't just sex, it is so much more. 
3. When you get your spouses way to connect with you, you don't have to fully understand it, you don't have to fully understand it, you just have to do it, because that is what it means to put others before yourself.

If you are willing to put others before you outside of marriage, why aren't you willing to do this inside of marriage? Why can you put your kids before your spouse? Remember this, you are a direct impact on your kids, your actions, your words will directly impact them to see what marriage is all about. They will take from you and live it one day, what do you want them to live?

It is time to build on what we have, stop tearing it down in hopes that will help, because a house is built on a foundation, the windows do not go in, until after the foundation is build. If we ever stop working on the house, the foundation is the first to crumble, don't let it.