Living Life in the Negative

Just the title of the post sums up how we can turn things that could be positive into negative. Really I should have titled the post living life in the positive, but would you have wanted to read it?

I use to live my life in the negative, thinking that everything bad was going to happen to me. I use to think my wife was going to cheat on me, I thought she was going to leave me, I thought a lot of terrible things. Can you imagine how that must have made her feel. We don't look at it from the others perspective when we are walking through life in the negative. I found myself hating myself for how I looked, my wife would always tell me that I looked good, but when I looked in the mirror I did not see that. I was unable to see anything for the positive it was and I look back and wonder if my negativity drove a wedge between my wife and I. Let me explain more...

Our negativity burdens people into thinking that maybe he doesn't trust me, if he can't trust himself or believe in himself how can he believe in me. How can he lead or even follow if he can't think anything positive. Our brains maybe have been programmed into thinking in the negative. You listen to the radio or watch TV and a lot of advertisement is based on negative ads. They do not build people up they tear them down. It is easy to get lost in the negative words, how many times a day do you say "Never" or "forever" by using words you introduce doubt and fear. We base our lives our choices on doubt and fear daily. If you have said you will never do something, how many times have you ended up doing it? We build ourselves up for failure, by the words we say, by our actions, by our outlook on life.

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How do you change your thought process? You change your thought process through choices, through steps to stop living in negative thoughts. Instead of seeing a rainy day as a waste, see it as a gain, you get to do work inside. You get to bond with your family or you get to go dance in the rain. Family is in bad health, you can look at it as a terrible thing, or you can see that know what you have to enjoy your family when they are with us. We have no idea what tomorrow will bring, but today you have life. Yes, I agree there are a few items that I do not see in the positive and those items you have to deal with and realize that it will take time. But it is how we deal with them that matters. We have a great deal to see as negative or we can see it as a blessing. It is time to change your perspective and see the blessing that have come out of the curses.

I don't know what you are thinking, maybe it is easy for me to say this all. We can chose joy or we can chose to be miserable. My life has been full of ups and downs and joy and pain, but in the past year I have seen that I can't live for the past, but I have to live for the day it is. One step at a time, one day at a time. I don't know what tomorrow holds, but I do know what today has right now.